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My girlfriend smothered me with a pillow for a few seconds

So yeah. Thats kinda how these things go. That damn friend zone shit. I know it sounds old fashioned but smashing first asking questions later a recipe for disaster. One nighters need to be bought back to smash and dash status.

Folks really need to be friends first before they even consider dating. Start with a solid foundation and work on the building the relationship into something more from the ground up. Modern females "friends" is just a synonym for i want gf priviliges but i just aint tryna fuck. Literally the root of their own despair romantically.

Look if u care about her and urself i really think yall need to dial it back breh. For both yall sake. Yall definitely shouldnt be cohabitating. This chicks antics while she is in the long slow process of healing is going to piss u off. U going to take it out on her. Its going to fuck her up and make healing very difficult. For u both. She shouldnt be talking to any man but a professional.

Of course u cant control her, nor should u try, and u can lead a horse to water, ya feel me.

But im also projecting heavy too. U gone have to kinda listen to make ur own decision here. I just know treating wifey like she was my chick just cause her crazy ass said "ill be ya chick" from jump only lead to pain for us both. I had to treat her like just another one female relative for a while to be able give her the space, love and care she needed to do her own healing so she coule become a proper wife down the line. Shit was no picnic and was probably just dumb luck it even worked out at all.

Im sorry man. Know that cant be what u tryna hear.
Now that I think of it though, asking someone to move in with you that quick is odd.
 
you need to leave for your own safety. It's all fun and games until your life is on the line and if you defend yourself you still taking the L the way this world works. The signs are there.
Could be worse. I coulda been dead from that pillow and not be typing this.
 
gotta cut that off while there’s no tangible attachments. if y’all had a child you would be cooked and she warned you
 
You know what you need to do. I dont see how guys stay around toxic women. If she's not helping ease the stress of life what good is she ?
 
We were in bed and she put the pillow over me (like suffocating) for a few seconds. She had like a glazed look on her face almost
like dissociative. Has super BPD tendencies like blame shifting on me, tried breaking up with me out of nowhere when I got in a auto accident
last year, always yelling with hissy fits and being caught in lies.

Also told me if I was to ever knock her ass up that she was afraid she would go in postpartum psychosis.
I'm not gonna lie fam at this point you gonna have to fight that bitch. Don't go out like that.
 
Now that I think of it though, asking someone to move in with you that quick is odd.
Putting the cart before the horse. People hook up first then date just to find out they wouldnt fukk with each other like that outside getting a nut. Then they make the dudes they dont wanna fukk friends usually so they can get the bennies of being.a couple without having to smash.

Its a broken system. Unsustainable.
 
she ended things "things don't feel the same anymore it does not feel right" then started yelling @ me some more
She said shes been living a lie for several months and basically low key said she was using me for chores and taking care of the dogs for months.
Yeah its very unlikely that she done done wit u breh. Thats just one of dem personalities takes on yall situationship most likely. When the one thats lowkey feelin u gets back behind the wheel, watch out. If not now, maybe make that the catalyst for filing dem papers. If u still even willing to entertain her and the multitude of personalities shit which no one would fault u for running, not walking to the hills.
 
Not for nothing op but early on wifey even had a name for her evil alter ego. It was Mary. And mary, as she always noted, was quite contrary
:sadcam:

Once properly medicated wifey was actually really cool peoples doh.
 
Yeah its very unlikely that she done done wit u breh. Thats just one of dem personalities takes on yall situationship most likely. When the one thats lowkey feelin u gets back behind the wheel, watch out. If not now, maybe make that the catalyst for filing dem papers. If u still even willing to entertain her and the multitude of personalities shit which no one would fault u for running, not walking to the hills.
I blocked her on everything. Now that I think of it she did say she feels like there is battle going on inside her identity wise. Maybe that split personality shit is what she means.

Despite me blocking her she still has all of our pics on social media as if nothing happened. This is very strange.
 
I blocked her on everything. Now that I think of it she did say she feels like there is battle going on inside her identity wise. Maybe that split personality shit is what she means.

Despite me blocking her she still has all of our pics on social media as if nothing happened. This is very strange.
File dem papers breh breh. I never did have the heart to ever follow through on cuttin wifey loose no matter how flagrant she got(she never tried to smother me physically tbf)but i imagine shit can go full fatal attraction with her off her meds and spiralling. File dem papers man if nothing else, just on some inner
:umad: ish(i would try to avoid overty hitting the
:umad: and at least feign genuine concern, or if u really or genuinely concerned u can just feign the
:umad: energy wit the homies to save face.) But come on mayne its been 3 years. Yall gotta have established some type of camraderie by now. Dont leave her out there at her worst breh breh. Hit er wit the 302 and from there u can let her know the next move is on her once she herself again.
 
File dem papers breh breh. I never did have the heart to ever follow through on cuttin wifey loose no matter how flagrant she got(she never tried to smother me physically tbf)but i imagine shit can go full fatal attraction with her off her meds and spiralling. File dem papers man if nothing else, just on some inner
:umad: ish(i would try to avoid overty hitting the
:umad: and at least feign genuine concern, or if u really or genuinely concerned u can just feign the
:umad: energy wit the homies to save face.) But come on mayne its been 3 years. Yall gotta have established some type of camraderie by now. Dont leave her out there at her worst breh breh. Hit er wit the 302 and from there u can let her know the next move is on her once she herself again.
she wouldn't even go in if I sent them
 
she wouldn't even go in if I sent them
Thats the thing she wouldnt have a choice. File the papers and once thats done call emergency services. Make sure its paramedics/emts on standby to keep dem boys on their best behavior especially if she or urself is of good melanated standing. Dont need to turn an emergency to a tragedy. They will hold her til she is stabilized.

Its pretty easy just go to the crisis center tell em what u told us. Give em her info, they will give u the papers. Wait for her to slumber and put in that call.

Again make sure u request emts to assist. Pro tip, its always possible she could be possibly suffering an overdose.
 
Thats the thing she wouldnt have a choice. File the papers and once thats done call emergency services. Make sure its paramedics/emts on standby to keep dem boys on their best behavior especially if she or urself is of good melanated standing. Dont need to turn an emergency to a tragedy. They will hold her til she is stabilized.

Its pretty easy just go to the crisis center tell em what u told us. Give em her info, they will give u the papers. Wait for her to slumber and put in that call.

Again make sure u request emts to assist. Pro tip, its always possible she could be possibly suffering an overdose.
They can't take her if she does not want to go though that is the thing. They can't force you to go with them. If she starts acting normal
for show they legally can't do anything.
 
I saw your update about the herpes my friend that is crazy information on top of first info you give. She did an evil thing I feel so bad for you and her too. Disease of sexual encounter is not what anybody would think of when in the moment. It's like she let you stay with her for free because she knew her vagina was a filthy place. My goodness!
 
I saw your update about the herpes my friend that is crazy information on top of first info you give. She did an evil thing I feel so bad for you and her too. Disease of sexual encounter is not what anybody would think of when in the moment. It's like she let you stay with her for free because she knew her vagina was a filthy place. My goodness!
Well also because I was doing all of the cleaning and taking care of the dogs. Had I not cleaned the place every day or so it would look like a hoarders house with dog shit not cleaned up on the kitchen floor. He would leave it there sometimes because he was too lazy to clean it.

The kitchen would get so full that it smelled bad and insects would get in the sink like bugs and shit.
 
:francis:

Abusers Use Suffocation as a Power Move​

The potentially deadly effects are the same as being strangled​


Abusers Use Suffocation as a Power Move

We know that abusers strangle their victims as a way to exert power and control over them—they want their victims to know they can kill them at any time. But let’s not also forget strangulation has a just-as-sinister cousin: suffocation. It could be done with a hand, a pillow or another object, or by applying pressure to a victim's chest, but the purpose of suffocation is to restrict oxygen to a sometimes-deadly level. Both suffocation and strangulation show an escalation in violence, say experts, and if it’s not the cause of a domestic violence homicide, it’s certainly a sign things are headed in a deadly direction.

The Last Warning Shot

Suffocation might be considered even more sinister than strangulation because there are no bruises left on the neck showing an abuser’s hands pressed into the victim’s skin, making suffocation nearly impossible to prove. And abusers know this.

“Strangulation and/or suffocation is definitely a method of choice by abusers—it’s a very effective way to exert power and control over a victim,” says Gael Strack, CEO and co-founder of the Alliance for HOPE International and the Training Institute on Strangulation Prevention.

“It sends a very strong and clear message to the victim that I control your last breath and I can get away with it. The inability to breathe is one of the most frightening and terrorizing experiences any person can go through.”

Strack says that abusers who strangle or suffocate their victims know it often leaves little to no visible evidence of the internal injury or trauma it causes, making it easy for the abusers to avoid accountability.

“Experienced batterers know police officers generally look for visible evidence of injury in order to make an arrest,” says Strack.

Suffocation, like strangulation, is on the end of the continuum of violence, just before death, says Strack, which is why she calls these methods “the last warning shot.”

“Studies show most victims in the United States are killed by the use of a firearm, but before they are shot, at least 50 percent are strangled,” she says.

Suffocation Often Goes Along with Strangulation

Based on focus groups with survivors, we know batterers suffocate their victims in order to silence them, says Strack. They may cover the victim’s mouth or nose with their hands, a pillow or a plastic bag, or sit on the victim’s chest. If they restrict air flow long enough, the victim will lose consciousness and death can occur in under 5 minutes.

Suffocation is also thought to occur in conjunction with strangulation most of the time, according to a report by forensic pathologist Dean Hawley for the National Strangulation Training Institute.


Hawley writes that the most typical scenario is for the victim to be on their back on the bed or floor with the abuser sitting on him or her, strangling them. The pressure of the abuser sitting on the victim’s chest reduces his or her ability to expand their chest wall during breathing, suffocating them.

Suffocation is often suspected in homicide cases where the victim is especially vulnerable, such as with children, the elderly or adults impaired by alcohol or drugs.

Survivors Might Not Recognize Suffocation as Abuse

Despite its obvious deadly nature, survivors who have been suffocated may not bring this up with an advocate or support person. The reasons can range from trauma, which can impede a survivor’s ability to remember information, as well as a lack of blood to the brain, which has the same effects.

“They also minimize strangulation or suffocation for many reasons—it could be happening so often, they don’t see any injuries so they think it’s not serious or no one will believe them,” Strack says.

Survivors may also be asked—by an advocate, physician or someone in law enforcement—if they’ve ever been “choked.” Strack says some survivors don’t identify with that word, considering what happened to them to be minor and not as serious as being choked, strangled or suffocated. Some may have been convinced by an abuser that strangulation is part of “normal” sexual behavior. Victims may also minimize the abuse in order to protect her abuser from being arrested.

“We are finding the better question is, ‘Has anyone applied pressure to your neck by any means? Did your breathing change in any way?’”

This is why it’s important to consider documenting abuse as a survivor. If you find yourself waking up with fuzzy memories of a violent incident, with soreness around your neck or chest area, or find it difficult to take a full breath, record these symptoms in a place where your abuser can’t find them, such as a notebook you keep at your office, a friend’s house or in a safe deposit box.

If You’ve Been Suffocated, Seek Medical Attention

Many victims of suffocation may not think it’s necessary to talk to a doctor if there are no signs of the assault. However, the after-effects of suffocation can be identical to strangulation (see “Strangulation Can Leave Long-Lasting Injuries” for more information). Even a temporary lack of oxygen can cause brain damage.

Survivors may also experience vision changes, tongue swelling, difficulty swallowing or breathing, left- or right-side weakness in the body, memory loss, paralysis or psychological injuries such as anxiety, nightmares, depression or suicidal ideations. In the case of pregnant survivors, suffocation can cause miscarriage.

Strack also encourages advocates to read “Why Didn’t Someone Tell Me? Health Consequences of Strangulation (Suffocation) Assault for Survivors” published in the Domestic Violence Report.

California Passes “Duty to Warn” Law

In January, a law went into effect in California requiring law enforcement officers to ask domestic violence survivors if they were strangled, record this information—helping to track those individuals who strangle—and inform survivors of the dangers of internal injuries, urging them to seek medical attention.

Strack says she hopes this results in a decline from suffocation and strangulation deaths, which can sometimes occur a day or more after an assault, even when a survivor feels like he or she is OK.

“Because internal injuries may develop or worsen within 24 to 72 hours, you have to pay attention and, if things change, go to the ER. We don’t want victims to suffer a stroke. Every second counts to the brain,” says Strack.
 
:francis:

Abusers Use Suffocation as a Power Move​

The potentially deadly effects are the same as being strangled​


Abusers Use Suffocation as a Power Move

We know that abusers strangle their victims as a way to exert power and control over them—they want their victims to know they can kill them at any time. But let’s not also forget strangulation has a just-as-sinister cousin: suffocation. It could be done with a hand, a pillow or another object, or by applying pressure to a victim's chest, but the purpose of suffocation is to restrict oxygen to a sometimes-deadly level. Both suffocation and strangulation show an escalation in violence, say experts, and if it’s not the cause of a domestic violence homicide, it’s certainly a sign things are headed in a deadly direction.

The Last Warning Shot

Suffocation might be considered even more sinister than strangulation because there are no bruises left on the neck showing an abuser’s hands pressed into the victim’s skin, making suffocation nearly impossible to prove. And abusers know this.

“Strangulation and/or suffocation is definitely a method of choice by abusers—it’s a very effective way to exert power and control over a victim,” says Gael Strack, CEO and co-founder of the Alliance for HOPE International and the Training Institute on Strangulation Prevention.

“It sends a very strong and clear message to the victim that I control your last breath and I can get away with it. The inability to breathe is one of the most frightening and terrorizing experiences any person can go through.”

Strack says that abusers who strangle or suffocate their victims know it often leaves little to no visible evidence of the internal injury or trauma it causes, making it easy for the abusers to avoid accountability.

“Experienced batterers know police officers generally look for visible evidence of injury in order to make an arrest,” says Strack.

Suffocation, like strangulation, is on the end of the continuum of violence, just before death, says Strack, which is why she calls these methods “the last warning shot.”

“Studies show most victims in the United States are killed by the use of a firearm, but before they are shot, at least 50 percent are strangled,” she says.

Suffocation Often Goes Along with Strangulation

Based on focus groups with survivors, we know batterers suffocate their victims in order to silence them, says Strack. They may cover the victim’s mouth or nose with their hands, a pillow or a plastic bag, or sit on the victim’s chest. If they restrict air flow long enough, the victim will lose consciousness and death can occur in under 5 minutes.

Suffocation is also thought to occur in conjunction with strangulation most of the time, according to a report by forensic pathologist Dean Hawley for the National Strangulation Training Institute.


Hawley writes that the most typical scenario is for the victim to be on their back on the bed or floor with the abuser sitting on him or her, strangling them. The pressure of the abuser sitting on the victim’s chest reduces his or her ability to expand their chest wall during breathing, suffocating them.

Suffocation is often suspected in homicide cases where the victim is especially vulnerable, such as with children, the elderly or adults impaired by alcohol or drugs.

Survivors Might Not Recognize Suffocation as Abuse

Despite its obvious deadly nature, survivors who have been suffocated may not bring this up with an advocate or support person. The reasons can range from trauma, which can impede a survivor’s ability to remember information, as well as a lack of blood to the brain, which has the same effects.

“They also minimize strangulation or suffocation for many reasons—it could be happening so often, they don’t see any injuries so they think it’s not serious or no one will believe them,” Strack says.

Survivors may also be asked—by an advocate, physician or someone in law enforcement—if they’ve ever been “choked.” Strack says some survivors don’t identify with that word, considering what happened to them to be minor and not as serious as being choked, strangled or suffocated. Some may have been convinced by an abuser that strangulation is part of “normal” sexual behavior. Victims may also minimize the abuse in order to protect her abuser from being arrested.

“We are finding the better question is, ‘Has anyone applied pressure to your neck by any means? Did your breathing change in any way?’”

This is why it’s important to consider documenting abuse as a survivor. If you find yourself waking up with fuzzy memories of a violent incident, with soreness around your neck or chest area, or find it difficult to take a full breath, record these symptoms in a place where your abuser can’t find them, such as a notebook you keep at your office, a friend’s house or in a safe deposit box.

If You’ve Been Suffocated, Seek Medical Attention

Many victims of suffocation may not think it’s necessary to talk to a doctor if there are no signs of the assault. However, the after-effects of suffocation can be identical to strangulation (see “Strangulation Can Leave Long-Lasting Injuries” for more information). Even a temporary lack of oxygen can cause brain damage.

Survivors may also experience vision changes, tongue swelling, difficulty swallowing or breathing, left- or right-side weakness in the body, memory loss, paralysis or psychological injuries such as anxiety, nightmares, depression or suicidal ideations. In the case of pregnant survivors, suffocation can cause miscarriage.

Strack also encourages advocates to read “Why Didn’t Someone Tell Me? Health Consequences of Strangulation (Suffocation) Assault for Survivors” published in the Domestic Violence Report.

California Passes “Duty to Warn” Law

In January, a law went into effect in California requiring law enforcement officers to ask domestic violence survivors if they were strangled, record this information—helping to track those individuals who strangle—and inform survivors of the dangers of internal injuries, urging them to seek medical attention.

Strack says she hopes this results in a decline from suffocation and strangulation deaths, which can sometimes occur a day or more after an assault, even when a survivor feels like he or she is OK.

“Because internal injuries may develop or worsen within 24 to 72 hours, you have to pay attention and, if things change, go to the ER. We don’t want victims to suffer a stroke. Every second counts to the brain,” says Strack.
But the thing is she only did it for a few seconds. You can't die from a few seconds.
 
Should of hit her ass with a sweet chin music in all seriousness
 
You need to GET HER OUT:camby::camby:
If she is THAT BAD,GET HER AND HER STUFF OUT. OR

Just WRITE A LETTER WHERE YOU EXPRESSED YOUR SADNES AND SUFFERING.




Ps : the second option is quite better
 
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